Indirect Parenting Interference by the Other Parent - Can You Protect Against It?
Updated: Jul 29
If your child's other parent has made it their mission to undermine your relationship with your child, there are ways you can protect your parent-child relationship.
What is Indirect Parenting Interference?
Indirect Parenting Interference is subtle. It includes actions that do not directly deprive you of custody or physical parenting time - but instead creates stumbling blocks or otherwise disrupts your parenting of, or your time with, your child.
Behaviors that may qualify as Indirect Parenting Interference include:
The other parent obsessively calls and/or texts your child when the child is with you;
Failing to timely notify you of your child's participation in extracurricular activities and school events during the other parent’s parenting time;
Dominating your child’s attention at co-attended functions and events;
Being the "Disney" Parent;
Not including you in communications with your child's schools, teachers, coaches;
Preventing you from communicating with your child online or through mobile devices;
If communication is permitted, causing disruption and distraction that prevents the child from feeling comfortable communicating with you;
Refusing to give your child gifts or letters that you send them;
Talking about you in a negative way in your child's presence;
Coercing your child to spy on you during your custody or visitation time together (recordings, taking videos, pictures);
Failure to respect boundaries by grilling the child with questions about the time spent with you;
Disrupting your "goodbyes" or "hellos" when the child transitions from one parent to the other.
While there are many more examples of Indirect Parenting Interference, the examples above are unfortunately very common.
Begin Now to Protect Against It
Once a parent establishes a bad pattern of behavior, changing it is not easy- especially if the child has bought into the course of conduct too. The longer you wait to confront an issue like Indirect Parenting Interference, the more disruptive it will likely be for you and your child.
Preparing to take action against this type of behavior is not an easy process. Co-parenting with someone who is hell-bent on interfering with your relationship with your child is downright excruciating.
Some things you can do to protect against Indirect Parenting Interference include:
Create a specific plan of action;
Use tools and strategies to prevent parental interference or stop it while it is occurring;
Get help to better understand the legal system and family court processes;
Create and maintain clear boundaries that are evident to the other parent;
Be proactive, and not reactive, to the behaviors of the other parent; and
Put an immediate halt to the intimidation shown to you by the other parent.
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